Crash-and-Burn
So you crashed-and-burned. You flew too close to the sun with the help of chemical compositions; you floated on a wave of vodka, gin, beer, wine or a mixture of all; you worked that internet until it worked you over; you shopped until you were all sold out; you loved so much that you were left loveless. It was your fault; it wasn’t your fault. It doesn’t matter because what really matters is that you crashed-and-burned. And you need to get up again…and stay up.
Safe, comfortable landing
Safe, albeit less comfortable landing
Either way you might have had extra support from friends and family as you forged the New You but chances are they won’t always be as available as new challenges take precedence for them. At some point they’ll consider you normal (which is wonderful and desirable) and expect you to conduct your life like a “normal”, which is totally possible but it can be difficult at times without a co-navigator.
The Real World
Burning brightly, burning bridges
Starting Over
So many questions…
- How to start over?
- How to return to an industry that drove you insane?
- How to map a path to a future work life that will be sustainable and emotionally rewarding?
- How to get up to speed on industry trends that occurred while your attention was elsewhere?
- How to conduct yourself and answer difficult questions during the job interview?
- What to say when asked “Tell me about yourself?”
- Wait…how to get an interview when you don’t have a CV or a job history worth speaking of?
- Or, you have a CV but it’s all a lie, a fabrication, and you’re working an honest recovery programme?
- How to write a CV when your work-life history is more chequered than a chess board or when it has more blanks than a clean A4 page?
- How to explain your situation to an unforgiving and prejudiced world that think that staying unstopped is a moral failing and who believe that stopping is a matter of exercising willpower?
Is any of this even possible?
Why Can I Help You?
As a career and life coach I have worked with countless people in recovery – from addictions and breakdowns, both in and out of rehab – who face all the challenges and questions outlined above. I help people recover their working selves, their sense of purpose and their rightful place in the sun, and make choices from the infinite and sometimes bewildering galaxy of career choices.
How Do I Help You?
- I help you remember who you were before you sought to forget.
- I help you re-invent and re-position yourself, restoring your reputation if required.
- I help phrase things you felt were too small and insignificant to even mention so that they help differentiate your offering to the workforce.
- I help reframe past objectionable jobs to find the transferable skills that will take you on a new path.
- I make it my goal to help you lift your head a little higher with more confidence than you can muster on your own.
- Using a combination of coaching modalities that suit your preferences I will be there for you, every step of the way, until you feel confident enough to walk on your own.
Navigation Skills
Things I have helped people do since they got sober and well:
- get their first honest job ever
- return to secondary school or achieve tertiary education with an end in mind
- rewrite their past so that their future looks bright
- restore their reputations and redeem themselves
- write CV’s, covering letters, apply for jobs, get jobs
- motivate for internship positions to obtain new work experience
- change careers mid-life
- leave toxic employment relationships
- process workplace dynamics and learn how to play the ball and not the man
- gain understanding of their part in relationships that went wrong
Gaining Courage
I assist my clients regain themselves at work and play and help them find courage:
- to pick up the phone and make an enquiry or reach out for assistance
- to send an email introducing themselves and what they can do for a future employer
- to expand their network of people who can help them move forward
- to resign from a non-serving job
- to leave damaging relationships
- to initiate healthy relationships
- to ask for what they need
To find and keep courage where previously they had none.